Insights and Resources for Your Mental Health Journey

Welcome to my blog, where I share valuable insights, tips, and resources to support your mental health and well-being. From managing stress and anxiety to building stronger relationships, my articles are designed to empower you with the knowledge and tools you need to live a fulfilling, balanced life.

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Disclaimer: The information provided on this blog is for general educational and informational purposes only. The information on this blog is not meant or implied to be a substitute for professional mental health treatment or any other professional advice.

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When Absence Is Power: How Structural Neglect Functions as Coercive Control

Neglect is often understood as a failure to act rather than a way of acting. In everyday thinking, harm is associated with what someone does: the words they say, the aggression they show, the behaviors they choose. By contrast, neglect is assumed to be passive; an unfortunate absence of care, attention, or follow-through rather than a meaningful relational behavior. From this view, “doing nothing” is treated as morally neutral, and sometimes even preferable to conflict or con

Abuse

Stacey Alvarez

Feb 929 min read

Trapped by a Trauma Bond? How to Identify, Understand, and Heal

Have you ever felt trapped in a relationship that’s deeply painful or confusing; one that you can’t seem to leave no matter how much you want to? Perhaps you find yourself constantly forgiving, hoping things will change, or feeling intensely loyal even when the relationship hurts you. This experience often points to what’s known as a trauma bond; a powerful, complex emotional connection formed through cycles of abuse, manipulation, or extreme highs and lows.

Trauma

Stacey Alvarez

Feb 227 min read

Are Parents Always Responsible for Narcissistic Adult Children or Family Estrangement?

Public conversations about children and outcomes tend to circle one urgent question: Who failed? Was it the parents? The schools? Society? The child themselves? This demand for attribution is rarely neutral. It carries an implicit need to assign responsibility, locate fault, and restore a sense of order in the face of discomfort. Ambiguity feels intolerable, so the conversation narrows until someone can be blamed or absolved.

Parenting

Stacey Alvarez

Jan 539 min read

Why Anxious Attachment Can Lead to Toxic and Abusive Relationships

When you live with anxious attachment, relationships often don’t feel safe—they feel urgent. Your nervous system is constantly on alert, scanning for signs of disconnection, withdrawal, or abandonment. Love becomes something to secure, manage, or rescue. The fear of being left or replaced can be so overwhelming that even healthy space or silence feels threatening. These very vulnerabilities can become magnets for emotionally unavailable or abusive partners.

Abuse

Stacey Alvarez

Nov 24, 202521 min read

Anger as a Normal Part of Healing, But Is It Okay to Stay There?

Anger is often treated as a “negative” emotion, something to suppress, control, or feel ashamed of. Yet for many survivors of trauma, abuse, or relational betrayal, anger is not only natural but also an essential and normal part of the healing process. Society frequently tells us that anger is dangerous, inappropriate, or a sign of weakness.

Trauma

Stacey Alvarez

Nov 17, 202521 min read

The Psychology of Stalking

Stalking is best understood not as a single act, but as a pattern of repeated, unwanted attention, contact, or surveillance that invades another person’s life. Unlike romantic persistence or healthy pursuit, stalking is rooted in control, obsession, and intrusion, not in genuine love or care. It strips away a person’s sense of safety by turning ordinary spaces like home, work, school, or even the online world into places where they feel watched, followed, or targeted.

Trauma

Stacey Alvarez

Sep 18, 202534 min read

Inside the Abuser’s Mind: How They Rationalize Abusive Behavior

Understanding why abusers justify and make sense of their harmful behavior is essential; not to excuse, minimize, or rationalize abuse, but to illuminate the complex ways that perpetrators maintain their actions despite knowing the harm they cause. Abuse is often stereotyped as eruptions of blind rage or complete denial, but in reality, many abusers are fully aware of their behaviors and the pain they inflict. They engage in sophisticated psychological and emotional maneuvers

Abuse

Stacey Alvarez

Sep 15, 202524 min read

Moral Entitlement: Childhood or Adult Trauma and the Search for Safety

When we go through trauma, it often leaves behind not only emotional wounds but also deeply ingrained beliefs about ourselves, others, and what we deserve from the world. One of the most misunderstood of these beliefs is moral entitlement: the sense that, because we have suffered, we are owed something, exempt from responsibility, or immune from the rules that apply to others.

Trauma

Stacey Alvarez

Aug 25, 202522 min read

Between Hurt and Harm: Navigating Moral Entitlement After Trauma

Moral entitlement often weaves itself quietly into the healing journeys of abuse survivors, shaping how they relate to themselves and others in profound but frequently misunderstood ways. Far from being a mark of selfishness, arrogance, or moral failing, this entitlement is best understood as a nuanced survival strategy, one forged in response to deep wounds, betrayal, and unmet needs.

Trauma

Stacey Alvarez

Aug 18, 202524 min read

Yes, You’ve Probably Acted in Abusive Ways — But That Doesn’t Make You an Abuser

Abuse, in our collective imagination, is something done by “bad people”—monsters, narcissists, sociopaths, villains. We distance ourselves from that label because we don’t want to be seen that way…and because, deep down, many of us fear what it would mean if we could hurt others. But the truth is more complex, and more human.

Abuse

Stacey Alvarez

Aug 4, 202529 min read

Abuse by Proxy: When Others Become the Abuser’s Messengers

Sometimes, the most painful attacks don’t come directly from the abuser, but from people you trusted. It might be a family member who suddenly turns cold, a friend who pressures you to forgive, or a therapist, mediator, or school staff member who sides with someone you know is harming you. These moments can leave you not only hurt but disoriented. How did they not see it? Why are they defending the person who’s hurting me?

Abuse

Stacey Alvarez

Jul 21, 202531 min read

Caught in the Cycle: Emotional Reactivity Keeps You Bound to the Abuser

Long after the relationship ends, or even while it continues, many survivors find themselves swept up in powerful and strong emotional reactions: rage that won’t subside, fear that surfaces unexpectedly, or a looping urgency to explain, prove, or defend. These emotional states aren’t random. They’re the echo of violation, of boundaries crossed and trust broken. And they deserve compassion, not shame.

Abuse

Stacey Alvarez

Jun 17, 202520 min read